|Prof. Daniel Oladele Adefolalu|
22-Nov.42 to 26.01.14
'A Professor & A Gentleman'
& now hopefully, a Peacemaker
Tuesday, 28 January 2014
Condolences, Good. Forgiveness, Better (Honouring Prof. Daniel Oladele Adefolalu)
Yes, the words are coming to me but they are still rather jumbled up and mixed with tears, smiles and goosebumps. Why goosebumps? Let me explain.
I was sitting in my mgm's dressing area when I got the call about my Papa, my Prof and I remember that one of the very first clear feelings I had after the first wave of tears ebbed was that of sheer relief that he had not died during our 2012 'black period'. That period when we were embroiled in a vitriolic father - daughter sms 'war'. It was just one of the lowest points in my life and if you ask me I cannot really even remember in detail what it was about now! I just thank God we sorted it out....that's what love does. As I sat there in that dressing room, I was so so so so thankful to God for the assurance I had that, somehow in the midst of all the pain, I had been able to show my dad how much I loved him. THAT was all that mattered. That I had, in some little way, given back to him.
So, the point of this blog is this: I want you to to be able to feel same when any of your loved ones goes home. I promise, nothing that is a source of contention or malice or un-forgiveness now will be worth it when that person is no more. The goosebumps that covered by arms that Sunday morning proved to me that as angry as I was back then in 2012, I would have been so utterly devastated if my Papa, my Prof had died before we made peace. Thank God Almighty, he did not. Your loved one does not have to either. You can send me your condolences. I would really appreciate them but if you really want to make me feel better. If you would like to join me in honouring my Papa, my beloved Prof Daniel Oladele Adefolalu, take some time out now and ask God to help you forgive anyone, especially anyone in your immediate & extended family, that has wronged you and you are still holding on in bitterness & malice.
Like I said, your condolences will be great. But your forgiveness of others will be better. Way better.
I pray God gives you the grace to do what you know deep down is right.
For them and most especially for you. Please don't let your heart be seared shut.
Salt to Prof: Missing you so badly Papa, Missing you so badly. But so grateful you are at peace now and just like God promised, you are totally restored and totally whole......just not on my side of eternity. You are on God's side and that's the best side to be. I am happy for you. Rest well and as you do, let's see how many people we can get to forgive and forget, abi? Love you Papa.
To God be all the glory!
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