Tuesday, 8 January 2013

Just Shut Up! (a blog dedicated to Zee)

No, I am not telling you to shut up.

I am just sharing with you what God told me. Yep, my PapaGod, about four/five days ago told me ho-ha to shut up o! Why? Let me explain. But first, I am dedicating this blog to my sistadivine Zee, the author of Zouzou's Musings because it was reading her latest blog that reminded me of the conversation I had with God during which he told me to 'mechionu'. It is not the first time he has been so blunt but still, I was taken aback.

So there I was reflecting on my 2013 and what I DID NOT want to do anymore. I have three big things I shall not be doing in 2013.  I called them Reverse Resolutions. And one of them was that I did not want to be caught in any situation where I was being held hostage for some promise I had made 'without truly thinking it through'. I am one of those 'impulsive decision-takers'. I tend to be moved by emotions, compassion and sometimes I think sheer gullibility. As my mgm says I am too naive for my own good. Anyway, I have gotten better in recent years and have trained myself to take a breath before making a promise or agreeing to do something. I have taught myself to understand that telling someone 'I will get back to you on that' is not a sin and that saying 'no' is not a one way ticket to hell. Lol! Still, there is still a ways to go for me. In the past year, I found that I still failed and I think I even suffered more than my 'promise-creditor' cos once I promise something until I fulfill it, I cannot have peace even if the delay is not my fault. It is like I am owing money. In some ways, it is even worse. For me, my word must be my bond and when I cannot keep my word, I feel like a criminal! Yes, I know, I am a drama queen.Lol!

Anyway, as I agonised over this with my number one Shrink, The Mighty Counsellor, as I whined and sought his views, you can only imagine my shock at the words that hit me from no where in my soul:

Just Shut Up Salt! What? I asked. Yes, the solution to this is for you to just shut up. Shut your mouth so that your mind and heart can hear my voice helping you process the information and arrive at a right decision. When you do this, you will find that in 2013, you will act more and speak less. When you speak less, the words you do let out will carry more weight. Model yourself on me. Not one word out of my mouth is superfluous.

Yes God was commanding me to be healed of verbal diarrhoea and Zee's blog sort of confirmed it. Like she said, if I watch my words and desire to make them count,  my speech and conversations will be more refined and thought through. My yes will be yes and my nay will be nay because I would have thought it through. So when I tell someone 'I will call you right back' it is not just another way of saying 'Bye, talk to you whenever'. Shutting my mouth more in 2013 is going to make me a more dependable person.  True, not sure anyone will say I let them down in the past but they don't know what I went through on the occasions where there was some form of delay. It was sheer agony. Don't want to go to that place this year. So I am shutting up more.

And you know what? I think we can use this in our relationships too. Don't go on and on about how you plan to change, be better, be kinder, communicate better, love more, love better. Don't talk about it too much. Talk is cheap.

Just Shut up and DO IT.

Gbam! *laughing*  (sorry, just like God, I have nothing but love for you and sometimes love is blunt!)

20 comments:

  1. Oh wow! ***wink and :-) I am smiling. God is good all the time, all the time God is good! As a loving Father, He means well and He sure knows best. Have a great day my sister. Enjoyed this share.

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    1. Yes he is. God is good and sometimes very in your face about stuff we need to change for our own good. Thanks Yvonne!

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  2. I don't want to be left out of this message or warning. I think it's just a message to help achieve better focus in this great year 2013.

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    1. It really is. It is not every time one needs to speak right away. Wisdom calls for some reflection before words gush out...I love how God, right from creation demonstrates how listening is twice as important as thinking - Two ears, one mouth! The right ratio! Lol! Thanks for coming by Debbie. Hope you are rocking your 2013 fine fine!

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  3. Honestly, this is so true and a lesson I need to learn too. Talk is indeed cheap, may I find the grace to be "do-er" and "be-er" more than a "say-er" in 2013

    Happy new Year ma'am.

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  4. I love that. Be a Do-er and a Be-er powered by the I AM. Happy New Year Jhazmyn. May God bless you in all the ways that matter most to you in 2013!!!!

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  5. I love this title, "Just Shut Up (big smiles). The world sure would be a better place if we could just be "low" on words and "high" on action (s). I feel inspired to do an article as an offshoot of yours(shut up!) (don't I just love saying that) :-). If I do, I will let you know. (I hope you noticed I said IF,?) OK, scratch that, when I do an article on it, I SHALL keep you posted!!

    I visited Zouzou's blog and i liked her post.

    ok Bernie Shut up! Lolz. walks away....

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  6. Lol. I know you a bit, trying to help people by giving them your word. And am like, are you serious? You really want to do that for me? Lol.

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  7. @ Bernnie: Lol! I know. JSU! It's does make me smile now but I promise when I heard it then, I was not smiling o! True, in 2013, we will have a more fulfilling time if we try to stick to this. And woman of God, DO THAT POST biko, o? I am waiting......no pressure though. Lol!

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  8. @BernnieII: And yes, Zee talks much sense and I think this is the second blog I have done that has been inspired by something I read on hers. I like her cos she is all about keeping it real.

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  9. @Ilola: Lol! Yes, you do know me a bit but what you don't know is how awful I felt when I could not come back to you on those phone numbers last year. What I did not know when I was making those promises was that not everyone likes to give out there personal cell numbers. Not sure I blame them cos the times are 'some how' *sighing*. Anyway, this is a new year and I wish you all the best in all your grand plans. It's you @ilola, so I know they must be grand! *smiling* and God will breathe on them all.....

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  10. Okay. Now I know this is another warning for me.loool.thank u ma
    Its just that wen ppl ask me questns abt God and oda stuffz..I don't just stop there!...I just like talking and talking and analysing everything and then some1 sees me and says I love talking..and so I just have to stop wen God doesn't send me message..just say as d spirit leads and Shut up!!!note to self...so help me God.

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    1. You know SugarSpring, I have been thinking about this JSU matter, as in Just Shut Up and I see, like you have pointed out, that it applies to much more than we thought. It should guide not just our promises and comittments this year, it should just guide all that comes out of our mouths. My dear, I gave up trying to 'defend' God long time ago. Again, he asked me who sent me message when I got into a heated argument about paying tithes and the 419 in some churches......it almost caused fight and I lost my temper. On the way home, I was moaning to God and he asked me' did I send you?'. I do not need anyone to defend me. I am God. No matter what......So when it comes to trying to 'make people believe' I will just shut up and let the Holy Spirit do his thing. That should take a load off the pressure of evangelizing. Abi?

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  11. Hmmm, the Spirit of God and God is one, am so blessed reading this, for over sometime now, God has bn finding it hard to get across to me, cause I flaunt the principle of silence which is a cardinal principles to have a cordial relationship with heaven. Severally God had, had a cause to tell me you use your mouth to bring your self here, use the same mouth to get out, and in quietness and solitude would you receive your answers. Am paying a lot of burden because i was to quick to take up responsibility, hopefully things are changing in 2 weeks time. Your blog ma'am as re-force the clarion call of the spirit to me. Am shutting up all the way. God bless you real good.

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    1. Quiet moments....A must have in 2013. I give God all the glory for talking to us in this way. I have to admit that, from the comments so far, this JSU matter is close to his heart for us this year.

      God bless you to my brother. May he help us to be 'doers' and not 'speak-ers' in 2013 so that he can usher us into all he has in store for us!

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  12. May I learn how to shut up and reflect before saying something, especially when I am angry. Thanks Salt!

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    1. Exactly Eya! That is another VERY good time to JSU. I say a big Amen to that one.

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  13. This is my 2013 resolution. I told myself on the first day of this year to listen more, talk less and always take a deep breath, count 1 to 10 before giving a response to anyone and anything.

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  14. Gbam! I am right with you on this one Sykik. Now when my phone rings or I am meeting with someone, I remind myself, 'Bola, listen twice as much as you speak'

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