Tuesday, 8 January 2013
Just Shut Up! (a blog dedicated to Zee)
No, I am not telling you to shut up.
I am just sharing with you what God told me. Yep, my PapaGod, about four/five days ago told me ho-ha to shut up o! Why? Let me explain. But first, I am dedicating this blog to my sistadivine Zee, the author of Zouzou's Musings because it was reading her latest blog that reminded me of the conversation I had with God during which he told me to 'mechionu'. It is not the first time he has been so blunt but still, I was taken aback.
So there I was reflecting on my 2013 and what I DID NOT want to do anymore. I have three big things I shall not be doing in 2013. I called them Reverse Resolutions. And one of them was that I did not want to be caught in any situation where I was being held hostage for some promise I had made 'without truly thinking it through'. I am one of those 'impulsive decision-takers'. I tend to be moved by emotions, compassion and sometimes I think sheer gullibility. As my mgm says I am too naive for my own good. Anyway, I have gotten better in recent years and have trained myself to take a breath before making a promise or agreeing to do something. I have taught myself to understand that telling someone 'I will get back to you on that' is not a sin and that saying 'no' is not a one way ticket to hell. Lol! Still, there is still a ways to go for me. In the past year, I found that I still failed and I think I even suffered more than my 'promise-creditor' cos once I promise something until I fulfill it, I cannot have peace even if the delay is not my fault. It is like I am owing money. In some ways, it is even worse. For me, my word must be my bond and when I cannot keep my word, I feel like a criminal! Yes, I know, I am a drama queen.Lol!
Anyway, as I agonised over this with my number one Shrink, The Mighty Counsellor, as I whined and sought his views, you can only imagine my shock at the words that hit me from no where in my soul:
Just Shut Up Salt! What? I asked. Yes, the solution to this is for you to just shut up. Shut your mouth so that your mind and heart can hear my voice helping you process the information and arrive at a right decision. When you do this, you will find that in 2013, you will act more and speak less. When you speak less, the words you do let out will carry more weight. Model yourself on me. Not one word out of my mouth is superfluous.
Yes God was commanding me to be healed of verbal diarrhoea and Zee's blog sort of confirmed it. Like she said, if I watch my words and desire to make them count, my speech and conversations will be more refined and thought through. My yes will be yes and my nay will be nay because I would have thought it through. So when I tell someone 'I will call you right back' it is not just another way of saying 'Bye, talk to you whenever'. Shutting my mouth more in 2013 is going to make me a more dependable person. True, not sure anyone will say I let them down in the past but they don't know what I went through on the occasions where there was some form of delay. It was sheer agony. Don't want to go to that place this year. So I am shutting up more.
And you know what? I think we can use this in our relationships too. Don't go on and on about how you plan to change, be better, be kinder, communicate better, love more, love better. Don't talk about it too much. Talk is cheap.
Just Shut up and DO IT.
Gbam! *laughing* (sorry, just like God, I have nothing but love for you and sometimes love is blunt!)
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