Sometimes I walk up and down in the Palms and I wonder if these little girls I see left their homes dressed decently only to get to the Palms and change into little bits of nothing. For surely, no sane mother would have let her daughter leave home dressed like that and with that much make-up. So it is either our country is populated by insane mothers or something is terribly wrong. My Only Princess is at that age where she picks her own clothes BUT I vet them and the only make up she is allowed is lip balm or gloss. Moms, please let's stop behaving badly. Let's teach our daughters to dress like the pearls they are. Every thing of value has to be mined from deep underground. Think about it, oil, gold, pearls, diamonds, do you see them just laying all over the place on careless display? Are your daughters not more valuable than these? Cover them up. Teach them to dress in ways that add value rather than devalue. Tomorrow now when one lecherous man gropes them, we will all be crying foul. I guess I should be asking you how YOU dress as I assure you that baby cow will surely be picking up style tips from mama cow. Not that I am calling you a cow o! Lol!
Seriously Parents, raising children is a grace-assisted race. There is a really fine line between being firm and uncompromising parents and fostering a loving, enabling environment where dialogue and healthy discussion can thrive. Tell me why does an eight year old need a blackberry? I mean it took me a long time to warm up to my fifteen year old daughter getting one but when I saw that my mgm, who is usually firmer than I am, felt it was OK, I let it go when he got her one for her birthday last year. But today, not only do younger kids have BBs, they have I-pads! For what? True now they get homework that requires the internet but that is what family PCs are for people! They do not need personal ones. OK, maybe it is just me but I feel we are leading our kids to that space of feeling entitled. Meanwhile, they have not worked a day in their lives to earn this quality of life we are giving them. Are we going to be there all the time? So when we give them all, what then do they grow up learning to earn for themselves?
*exhaling* Anyway, I am done pseudo-venting now and if this blog grinds your gears as my first born son would say you can blame Zee's blog - Not Complicated? - cos it was reading it that triggered this rant. Indeed times have changed since I was a kid and I know parenting was not this complicated for my mom and dad and like I told my two teens this morning, I was OK being that parent living in the dark ages now if it meant I could be the parent of children who grew up to be responsible, well turned out leaders of their generation in the future. I love my children to bits and will take any number of bullets for them BUT I will not, in the name of being a hip parent, allow myself succumb to PPP
Neither should you. Now or in the future.